Tough Minded Love for Tender Minded Sweethearts:

For couples and singles

  • How to select the right partner for you!
  • How to really know which partner is right for you!
  • How to get the most out of yourself, your partner and your relationship!
  • How to develop better, deeper communication with your partner!
  • How to celebrate your intimate moments with your partner, express loving feelings & make love all the time!
  • How to have a Rational Relationship that last a lifetime!

Basic Information

Instructor: Dr. Chrys - Chrysoula Kostogiannis (Ph.D., RECBT, Ellis Scholar).

Place: Online

Tel. & e-mail communication: (+30) 210 6128950, (+30) 210 6142110, (Monday to Friday 2:00 pm – 7 pm, Eastern European Time); This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Office Hours for educational support: To be announced.

Lecture’s Day and Time: To be announced.

Webinar Cost: 90 €, bank deposit or paypal/credit card.

Required Reading:

Beck, A. T. (1989). Love is never enough. How couples can overcome misunderstandings, resolve

conflicts, and solve relationship problems through Cognitive Therapy. New York, NY: Harper &


Broder M. (2002) Can your relationship be saved? CA: Impact Publishers Inc.

Ellis, A. (1985). Applications of Rational-Emotive Therapy (RET) to love problems. Journal of

Rational-Emotive Therapy, 3 (2), 100-123.

Ellis, A. & Harper, R.A. (3rd Ed.) (1975). A guide to Rational Living. Charsworth, CA: Wilshire.

Lima, D. R. (2000). The Love Workbook: A guide to happiness in your personal relationships.

Grawn, MI: Access Publishers Network.

Wolfe, J. (1992). What to do when he has a headache: Creating renewed desire in your man.

New York, NY: Hyperion.

Additional Notes and Videos will be provided.

More Information

Type of Action: Webinar-Workshop

Description: This webinar is designed as an experiential workshop and aims to address some of the most common issues faced by couples and singles when relating to their potential partners and/or in a relationships. Initially, participants will be informed as to how their family history, personal and interpersonal experiences and personality affect what they bring into a relationship. Next, the attraction and psycho-social connection patterns of people falling in love will be explained.  Practical guidelines will be provided to realize early on when a relationship is right for you and when it is not right for you. Participants will understand relationship patterns that work in the short term and relationship patterns that last a life time! There will also be exercises on how to become more open and vulnerable in a relationship, and how to deepen the compassion, commitment, intimacy, communication and sexual connection within a relationship.

A review of the relationship literature will be highlighted in terms of common areas of dissatisfaction in a relationship and how to best work on these issues a)  communication styles, b) intimacy/sexuality preferences, c) emotional regulation/expressions, d) lifestyle patterns, e) financial management f) relationships with the in-laws and friends, and g) child rearing practices, when applicable.

Moreover, participants will learn how to accept their partner, resist the escalation of dissatisfaction to disturbance, decide on which relationships are worth caring for and working on and when it is time to let go. Specific exercises will assist you to realize the benefit of a healthy relationship to yourself, to your partner and the benefit of the union. In addition, participants will learn to stick to strong preferences and desires instead of demands and ruminations of the past and focus on the present expressions of love. A special section on difficult relationship issues will also be explored (e.g., conflict and anger management, forgiveness). Participants will move toward asserting what they want in an intimate relationship and learn strategies on how to get what they want.


  • To learn to identify how your (and your partner’s) family of origin and your (and your partner’s) personal relationship history with unresolved issues contribute to your current relationship functioning
  • To learn to change how your (and your partner’s) family of origin and your (and your partner’s) personal relationship history with unresolved issues contribute to your current relationship functioning
  • To understand how your (and your partner’s) personality, emotional experience and expression, beliefs, attitudes and behaviors about and in relationships affect the quality of your relationships
  • To learn to identify who is the right partner for you
  • To learns how to attract the right partner for you
  • To identify your communication style that connects you to your relationship and assert your desires and wants
  • To learn how to let go of your relationship’s past, your partner’s relationship’s past and focus on your relationship’s present and future
  • To learn to express loving behaviors – inside and outside the bedroom
  •  To learn how to identify areas of dissatisfaction when problems arise in a relationship and what you can do to deal with them effectively
  • To learn a framework of cognitive analysis of relationship problems (the ABC’s of Relationships) and according to this framework analyze and solve your own and your relationship issues
  • To learn how to set realistic relationship expectations/goals in terms of common problem areas (e.g., in laws, finances, lifestyle preferences, sexual behavior, etc.)

Webinar-Workshop Outline (The Webinar-workshop exact dates will be announced after discussion with the participants):

1st Webinar Lesson:  Relationship Assessment: Family History, Personal & Relationship History. Understanding your relationship patterns, become committed to change and getting the most out of yourself, your partner and your relationship! Video attached.

2nd Webinar Lesson:  Relationships: Overcoming barriers to effective relating!  Identifying your own and your partner’s personality, attitudes, beliefs, emotions, behaviors that interfere with deeper emotional, behavioral and intimate/sexual connections! Video attached.

3rd Webinar Lesson:  Identify areas of relationship dissatisfaction – what can change, what cannot change. Learn how to acknowledge and celebrate the former and tolerate, when appropriate, the latter! Video attached.

 4th Webinar Lesson:  Communicate assertively what you want and influence your partner to give you what you want! Video attached.

5th Webinar Lesson:  Learn how to be intimate all the time - in bed and outside of bed! Video attached.

6th Webinar Lesson:  Learn how to resolve conflicts and manage difficult situations through positive, rational thinking, emotional and behavioral management! Video attached.

7th Webinar Lesson:  Individual and/or Group interaction project (to be discussed). Video attached.

8th Webinar Lesson:  Webinar overview and discussion. Video attached.

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